Humanism, Christianity and Marriage

I once worked at Sicilian restaurant where the chef created culinary masterpieces for his menu. I cringed when a patron decided to change the ingredients. I would return to the kitchen with the special request and the chef would roll his eyes and prepare an imperfect dish. Sometimes he would point down the road and suggest that his costumers go to a fast-food restaurant where they can stuff their faces with whatever they want.

The battle for the definition of marriage rests on a very simple question. "Who's the chef?" Christians view marriage as a dish designed by God, similar to an item on a menu designed by a master chef. To question the form and function of marriage is foolish, arrogant, and an insult to the God who instituted it.

While Christians live under the institution of marriage created by God, humanists throw on the chef's hat and place themselves above it. Humanists deconstruct the chef's dishes and place the ingredients upon a buffet table for their perusal. The end result is fast-food that I can have my way. If a Christian criticizes a humanist's design for marriage the humanist naturally becomes offended and views the Christian as arrogant and rude. "How dare you criticize my tastes. This is a buffet!"

We are no longer living in a Christian context where truth is determined by God. Understanding this will help to keep Christians from committing one of two errors.

Error #1: Christians will try to force God's "menu" on others. This legalistic approach fails because even if you successfully force a menu into people's hands they'll still desire a buffet. Legalism requires the heavy hand of authority or government. Jesus did not try to recruit Pontius Pilate or King Herod and neither should we. Christians must proclaim, offer and defend the truth but we must be careful not to force it.

Error #2 Christians will join others in the buffet to appear relevant. This approach makes Christianity indistinguishable from the rest of the world. Why join a church for more of the same? Over time the menu gets twisted and the remaining Christians become enamored by the buffet. This is the plight of most mainline denominations.

So what's the Christian to do?

The prophet Daniel lived in godless Babylon where he was literally offered a buffet. The Babylonians expected Daniel and his friends to eat food that was forbidden on God's menu. Daniel did not force his food on the Babylonians but he stood firm and refused the Babylonian fare. He challenged his overseer to observe him and his friends, to see what sort of impact his diet would have on him and his friends. Daniel's Babylonian overseer observed Daniel and saw that God's diet had a beneficial effect.

Christians are to treat marriage as an institution authored by God. We can offer it to others but we must not force it. We can be kind and respectful to others but we dare not change who we are or water down God's menu to appear relevant. Let's sit down together and enjoy God's menu. Perhaps someone who is sick of the junk food will observe the benefits of a faithful, God-centered marriage and ask to see a menu.